Truth hurts: 5 reasons you could be ruining your dates
It might be time to rethink your approach to romance if you rarely seem to make it past the first date.
In this post, we’ll break down a few common mistakes that could be undermining your attempts at love.
So, here are 5 ways you could be ruining a perfectly good date
1. Killing the conversation by talking too much… or too little
The whole point of a date is to get to know the person you’re with, but that’s hard to do if the conversation isn’t equally balanced.
Keep the conversation flowing in both directions by asking interesting, open-ended questions.
If you’re not sure what to ask, think back on what your date shared on their dating profile and ask them to talk about what they shared.
Give thoughtful and complete responses to your date’s questions, but skip the extra details unless your date is particularly interested in the topic.
2. Skipping the compliments
Giving and receiving compliments is a bit of an under-appreciated skill, but a nice compliment can give your date a little boost of confidence and make them feel more comfortable with you.
It’s important not to overdo it on the compliments otherwise you could just make your date feel awkward.A good rule is to try to sprinkle in about two unique and thoughtful compliments at some point during a date.
It lets your date know that you’re paying attention while giving them a boost of reassurance if they’re feeling nervous.
3. Displaying lousy posture
Although no one can hear it, body language speaks volumes to your date, so please skip the slouching.
In fact, bad posture can send the message that you’re bored or turned off, which is far from charming.
Tune in to your posture every so often and adjust your position if you need to. Sitting and standing up straight easily projects confidence and openness.
Also, make sure to look at your date and lean in slightly as they’re speaking to show that you’re alert and listening.
4. Worrying if you’re impressing your date
Unfortunately, those first date nerves can make us say some pretty dumb stuff in an attempt to impress our date.
Don’t brag about your fancy job, new car, or smokin’ hot ex. Even if you find it all impressive, your date will probably wonder if you’re trying to compensate for something.
Focus on being open and honest with your date while paying attention to how they’re making you feel about yourself.
5. Not following the date up with a text
Whew, your date is over and it went pretty well. Mission accomplished!
Not quite yet.
After parting ways, send your date a quick text once you get home to say it was nice meeting them, or ask if they made it home OK.
A little thoughtful follow-up message leaves your date on a positive note – and it’s a good way to let them know if you’re open to going out again.
Sources
https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-how-get-better-ncna1062546